It is hard these days to meet anyone who has not tried online dating, unless they are not single or on the internet. As for swingers who are on the internet, they are generally a member of at least one site, some are members of many sites (I don’t know how they keep track of it all).

As you are reading this article right now, I am going on the assumption that you ARE online – so please pay attention as I am going to go over some things that can be crucial for your online success with meeting people.

Most everybody putting up personal ads on Internet dating & Swingers sites seem to do everything to RUIN any of their chances for success. Are you one of them?

Here is how to ruin your online success:

1. CHOOSE A SLEAZY USER NAME

Many sites display your user name in your personal profile, and on their message boards. So, if you choose something vulgar like “MyBigPENISXXX” or “JustF**KMe”, you are probably going to mess up your chances dramatically.

2. WRITE A TIMID MESSAGE

Every day I see all the people writing in their messages things like, “I hate this part but here it goes”, “I never understand what to write here” or simply “Ask me”. Your personal message is the only thing in your profile that is UN-structured – the rest are usually just tick boxes. Make sure you don’t say anything interesting here, so no one will feel compelled to learn more about you.

3. DON’T HAVE ANY PARTNER REQUIREMENTS

Your requirements for a partner say VOLUMES about YOU. If you do not have any requirements for a partner and want to meet everyone and anyone, you will sound positively desperate. No one is attracted to desperate people.

4. DON’T UPLOAD A PHOTO

Most users of dating sites search for profiles with photos only. If you do not upload your photo, no one will find your advertisement. Face it we are visual people, we want to see what you look like, not just close ups of your genitalia either, we want to see if we at physically attracted to you. It will also severely damage the chances of your virtual ”Kisses”, “Smiles”, or “Drinks” being answered.

5. DON’T PAY FOR PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP

Most. if not all, online dating and swingers sites will allow you to place your personal ad for free of cost, but to write to other members, you have to buy a subscription. Although the price of subscription is cheaper than the price of a movie ticket and popcorn, you are not tempted. Why support the site, when you already pay your provider to access the internet. By sticking with the free membership, you ensure you cannot contact anyone. Also some sites place ads of premium members on top of the search results, so if you do not pay, your ad will appear on the page 247 of the search results – which will make it nearly impossible to find. So no matter what, do not pay for your membership if you do NOT want to meet others.

6. DON’T CONTACT OTHER MEMBERS

Most sites will allow you to contact other members for no cost to you by sending a “Hi”, “Virtual Kiss”, “Icebreaker”, “Drink” or “Smile” – an expression of interest, to which the other member can respond. Don’t send any of those to anyone, or they may just answer absolutely, yes, we should meet. Think only about how bad would you feel if they rejected your advances, so why take a chance in the first place.

7. DON’T EVER CHANGE ANYTHING IN YOUR AD

Do not attempt to change anything in your ad. If you change something, it may just start working. Keep with what you know doesn’t produce any results. That way you don’t have to take a chance on meeting up with anyone.

8. DON’T LOGIN TO THE WEBSITE – EVER!

Now, this one in probably the most important, so pay attention. Once you placed your personal ad, immediately forget you ever did it – and forget your user name and password, too. Do not login to the website again, especially if you get an email from the site telling you that they have mail waiting for you from another member. If you do log in again, your ad may jump to the top of the search results and someone may just go ahead write to you. Don’t take this risk. Just place the advertisement and forget about it.

If you follow this simple guidance, we can pretty much guarantee that you will flawlessly ruin any chances for success with online swingers and dating sites and your love life will stay just the way it is! Now isn’t that great.

~Sandi & Ted from Tryst Swingers